The story of Farzana & Shahed


Location: United States and Canada
Married: June 2011

My name is Farzana Zaman and my husband's is Shahed Shams. I believe my husband and I were among the first 20 who had announced finding our match on Half Our Deen. Alhamdulillah we have been married for a little over 3 years now, and I grow to love my husband more and more everyday. I am originally from Toronto, Canada and my husband is from St. Louis, USA.

I had been looking seriously for about a year and half or so without much success. One of the main things I was looking for in my future spouse was deen, in addition to education, career, family, etc. I was a viewer of Baba Ali’s videos on Youtube and really liked what he had to say, and the way he presented Islam. I was always a little hesitant to look online for a spouse, but I trusted Baba Ali and felt that he was sincere in his work, and so I decided to give it a try without having much of a high expectation.

I joined Half Our Deen when it first launched, and so there were not that many members on the website. I stayed on the website for about a month or a little more and decided to deactivate it because I felt like it was not going anywhere. After a month later, I decided to give it another try, and this time I made the sincere intention to Allah (SWT) that I am seeking someone for marriage with the intention of pleasing Him; that I wanted someone who was a practicing Muslim. I think the first time that I joined HOD, I had not made my intentions clear in my heart. After joining the second time around, I received a message from my future spouse, Shahed Shams, about a month later. I read his profile and liked it. We messaged each other a few times on HOD for about a week and then decided to chat on, of course MSN! Our first chat went well, and then we decided that we should let our parents know and that our parents should chat with one another to see whether the families were compatible or not. If they were compatible, then we would proceed with talking to see if we were compatible and if not, we would go our separate ways. From the beginning we were very clear with one another that we were only speaking for marriage purposes, and so we always kept our conversations formal.

Our parents then talked on the phone and were happy and told us to continue talking. After about a few weeks of talking, mainly on MSN and sometimes over the phone and really getting to know each other (by asking the right questions), we decided to meet in person. Prior to this time we had only seen pictures of one another. Our families then planned a trip to Chicago (since Chicago is midway between Toronto and St. Louis) to meet one another face to face. Alhamdulillah our meeting went well and we decided to get engaged on December 25th, 2010 with both our families present! Six months later on June 24th, 2011 we got married.

I am very grateful to Allah (SWT) for my dear husband, who makes me a better person everyday. I feel that Allah (SWT) wrapped him up in a gift and gave him to me. Everything was made so easy. My husband is above and beyond what I wanted in my spouse.

JazakaAllah khayr Half Our Deen for helping me find my other (better) half. May Allah (SWT) reward you with immense good for all that you have done and I pray that Half Our Deen is able to help many others who are looking for their spouse.

I have attached our picture with this message and following is my home address. Although you’ve already given me my gift, and don’t have to give me anything else, I very much appreciate it! Please keep us in your duas.