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The story of Sai'd & Eman

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Country: New Zealand and Australia
Married: September 2011

What made you join HOD? What was your story before joining, i..e were you looking/not looking?

Sa'id: I was encouraged by a friend of mine. I had heard of HOD and thought it a good idea, but was very skeptical about it, for me - I just didn't think an internet introduction was really my thing. I had been looking to get married for a while, but living in New Zealand was a bit of a barrier (small community, and many sisters overseas unwilling to relocate). My friend told me to use his login, have a look around, and then I could decide to join up or not. He pestered me until I agreed, so I logged on and looked around. I saw Eman's profile, and knew straight away I had to contact her. So I signed up myself, and it was the best thing I've ever done :)

Eman: I joined the website to find a life partner on 'my terms' not on my family or anyone else's terms. My father always wanted me to marry someone from the family. To me all I cared about was the person's deen and character. I had enough of people introducing me to people with whom I had nothing or very little in common with. I wanted to take matters into my own hands. Alhamdulelah i felt that i've reached the stage where i have a clear idea about the type of person i wanted as partner for life inshalla. Alhamudlelah I found what I was looking and so much more J


Eman: I joined the website to find a life partner on 'my terms' not on my family or anyone else's terms. My father always wanted me to marry someone from the family. To me all I cared about was the person's deen and character. I had enough of people introducing me to people with whom I had nothing or very little in common with. I wanted to take matters into my own hands. Alhamdulelah i felt that i've reached the stage where i have a clear idea about the type of person i wanted as partner for life inshalla. Alhamudlelah I found what I was looking and so much more J


Who made the first move :)?

Eman: Sa'id did..
Having said that, I don't see any problem with a female making the first move, after all Khadija the prophet's wife approached him first for marriage.

Sa'id: I made the first move - there was no way I was going to waste this opportunity by trying to act cool! I had to see if this woman was interested in me or not, so I clicked the interested button and answered her questions...


How did you communicate after meeting on HOD?

Eman: After meeting on HOD, we decided that we wanted to know more about one another. And so our communications evolved from HOD, personal emails, chats, SMS, phone conversations and skype live chat, and finally face-to-face meeting. I was really surprised by how quickly things are moving, but I had a strong feeling it was going to work with Sa'id. I was ecstatic and still am J alhamdulelah.

Sa'id: Used the HOD email/msg function, but then began to use regular email and then Skype. I knew pretty quickly that this was it, so after a couple of weeks I asked Eman if I could travel to speak with her father and meet her face to face. She seemed pretty comfortable with that suggestion!!


- What questions you answered that tied the deal?

Sa'id : Eman's answers were really pleasing - she was clearly committed to her deen, which is so important to me, but she was also so lively, down to earth and modern in her approach. The clincher was an issue that we discussed where our opinions differed. I didn't try to change her mind, just put my perspective forward. She responded that she could see where I was coming from, she appreciated my effort and honesty, and said thank you for explaining clearly. This showed me her willingness to listen and empathise, and genuinely take into account my feelings, which was awesome :) From that point, I knew that even if we agreed to disagree on things, she would be a person who would be genuine, caring and direct, and that meant the world to me.

Eman: Alhamdulelah through our communications we've covered a wide range of topics and felt we were compatible at so many levels on matters to do with: role of Islam in our lives, future goals, supporting each other, living our lives and raising our kids according to Islamic principles, handling money in the household...etc Sa'id once said to me 'you answer every question I have perfectly - it's like someone picked my brain and created a woman to match what I want!!!'
To me this perfectly sums up our relationship, we understand one another, we 'get' each other. Alhamdulelah


Were you both in the same country? If not can you tell us which countries you are both based?

Sa'id : Eman lives in Australia and I'm in New Zealand, and I made it really clear early on that this is home for me. I laboured the point a bit, as I'd been let down before by other people over this issue, but Eman was honest from the start that she could handle a move.
Luckily, our countries are close, and it makes me very happy to think she could reach her family in a matter of hours whenever she needed to. After all, her peace of mind is crucial to me :)

Eman: From the beginning Sa'id was clear that he was after someone who can move to NZ, for me that was not an issue especially that NZ is very close to Australia and I could always make quick trips to visit my family and friends. When i first met Sa'id he mentioned that he always had a feeling that he'd marry someone from overseas and hence he designated a travel fund for his future wife's to be able to visit her family. I thought this was very sweet and was definitely one of the things that made feel very lucky to have this man Alhamdulelah.


How many other HOD members you spoke to before choosing you other half?

Sa'id : I responded to anyone who sent me a direct HOD email message, but really I only had eyes for one lady :) I made istikharah before contacting her, and made lots of dua'a that she'd find me to her liking!

Eman: Thanks to the 'sounds interesting' and 'i'd rather fast' buttons, it made it easy to decide whether you want to talk to this person's further or not. In this sense, there were a few contacts but didn't go any further. When I read Sa'id's profile and his intelligent answers to my questions, I knew this was going to go further inshalla..


How long after meeting your other half did you get engaged?

Sa'id : Well, I knew within a couple of weeks that I could share a future with Eman, but didn't want to put pressure on her... alhamduillah, she expressed a similar sentiment before too long, and so I went to meet her father. Our formal engagement was confirmed about 6 weeks or so after we connected on HOD.

Eman: Alhamdulelah it didn't take long at all. Once we reached the stage where we were both comfortable with one another and the thought of sharing a life time with each other, we didn't see a need to wait around. And this is our advice to everyone: When you've done your research, asked the right questions, and put your trust in Allah SWT then be sure that Allah will guide you to what's best inshalla.


How did you find the experience using a matchmaking site like HOD?

Eman: I found it very rewarding alhamdulelah, after all I found my soul mate.

Sa'id : It certainly proved this dubious skeptic wrong :)


Would you recommend HOD to another brother or sister?Why you joined the site

Eman: Absolutely!
I think HOD is a great alternative especially at a time where there is clear absence of community/mosque involvement in helping young Muslims complete half their deen.

Sa'id : Without hesitation!


Jazakum Allahu Khair HOD Sa'id and Eman



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